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  1. my fiance and i will be planting a tree together instead of the traditional unity candle lighting. you could say that we are both “tree huggers” at heart , so this would make perfect sense!

  2. me and my husband to be will be planting tree too instead of the candles, we both love trees and flowers. surely it would be very memorable for the two of us coz we’re both nature lovers.

  3. Rhea and William

    We’re also ditching the candle thing and doing a unity drink of our favorite soda flavors. I love lemon soda, while my fiance enjoys the blue soda flavor from Jones Soda. I think it’s going to be great to see the colors change to green when you combine the yellow and blue! Cool!

  4. hi eveyrone! i just wanted to share my unity candle idea. my fiance and i met at a starbuck’s coffee shop-we actually worked there together for three years during college. so, for our unity candle ceremony, we are going to be combining two separate cups of black coffee into one big cup that is filled with creme and sugar. we are also big coffee drinkers so this works out! in this way, we are starting out our new life together with something sweet and dear to our hearts!

  5. Thanks for sharing your story! It’s so romantic and touching.

  6. For our unity candle ceremony alternative, we’re using handpainting! Each of our hands will be stamped with a different paint color. My will be pink and my fiance’s will be blue. Using a white canvas, we’ll create a cross stamp of our hands, so the intersection will be a combination of two colors. It should come out purple!

  7. I love the Unity Candle idea for our wedding. Where do I buy them?
    I also love the Paint your Names idea! In the photo, the woman is holding a marker or something, wrapped in a dried corn husk or something. Details??


  8. Hi, Jeff!

    The Paint Your Names idea is actually part of an “alternative guest book” article we did. But we thought the same idea could be tweaked into an option for the unity candle ceremony. Here’s the link: http://www.bellenza.com/wedding-ideas/diy-projects/a-unique-guest-book-idea-that-turns-into-a-work-of-art.html

    About where to buy unity candles, a quick online search should yield many great suppliers for these. But you can actually use any type of candle that suits your wedding motif and style. Just check out your favorite home decor stores.

  9. I love the idea of the painting your names we were tossing around ideas on how we could involve our children since we are not only joining our lives but the lives of our children my mom suggested since there are 6 of us total (my future husband and his 2 kids and me and my 2 kids) and the word family has 6 letters we should do something with the weird family I’m thinking each one of us could paint a letter of family and then we could all sign and date it.

  10. Hi, Anonymous — That sounds like a lovely unity symbol for your new family! So meaningful…and can be displayed in your home afterwards.

    All the best!

  11. My future Daughter-in-law is planning a wedding. They would like to do a signature drink unity instead of candle. The problem is, what wording do they use. Does anyone have any ideas/suggestions for the wording?

  12. Hi, Raeleen — Yes, the wording of ceremonies like the “signature drink” in place of the unity candle can be pretty challenging to prepare! Not sure if this will help, but here’s a link that describes how a “wine ceremony” can be done — with simple wording for the couple and the minister to say:


    All the best!

  13. My Fiance & myself both did not want a unity candle it was just too “traditional” and we are anything but. We are instead doing a “water ceremony” (each taken a different colored water and pouring them into a bigger container thus mixing the two colors!)

  14. Thanks so much for sharing that with us, Micah! Always great to make your wedding as personal and meaningful as you can. Happy holidays!