Not sure how to personalize your wedding vows? Try these helpful tips that we are providing to you today. With a basic understanding of what are the components of a standard wedding vow, our 5 simple approaches show you how to write your own vows. We’re confident that you’ll soon be drafting your own meaningful and profound statements of commitment to each other.
5 Approaches + Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
We all know the standard wedding vows that been exchanged at ceremonies for decades:
I take you ________________ to be my husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for as long as we both shall live (or till death do us part). This is my solemn vow.
But more and more of today’s couples are opting to craft their own vows to one another—capturing their personal thoughts, wishes, and promises for their years of marriage ahead. If you’re considering doing this for your own ceremony, here are three possible approaches you can use:
Approach #1 – Use the conventional vows as a template
If you look closely at the traditional vows above, they actually provide a great guide for what aspects to cover in your own “customized” version. You can divide up the phrases and use each one as a springboard for expressing the same thought in your own words. A safe way for making sure you cover all the bases, so to speak! But if you craft your phrasing from the heart, these vows will truly be yours.
Approach #2 – Take a special song, poem, or reading for inspiration
Is there a song or poem that holds a cherished meaning for the two of you? It need not be a mushy piece, either. Just something that parallels your relationship, speaks about something you both value, or how you view being together forever. You could quote a verse from here, or just a line or two. Or you could read a portion of an inspirational reading that truly speaks to you as a couple. Then, build your own promises around any of these. Try novelists and poets like Lord Alfred Tennyson, Jane Austen, John Keats, and William Wordsworth.
Approach #3 – Create marriage vows with verses from the Bible
Couples who are deeply committed to their faith often choose to incorporate short passages from the Bible. This spiritual angle can be a great way to express your shared values and beliefs especially if you choose to have a Christian wedding ceremony. Talk with your pastor about what are some verses that would be ideal to incorporate into your vows.
Approach #4 – Get inspired with famous lines from your favorite movies
For the couple with a shared passion for film, why not take snippets of vows or quotes from classic to modern movies. Classics like Casablanca, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, Sabrina, and Roman Holiday are wonderful examples. You can also opt to explore lines from modern flicks like Father of the Bride, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, and My Best Friend’s Wedding.
Approach #5 – Recapture past moments, commit to the future
Select key incidents or memorable times from the moment you first met till your engagement. Express how these revealed qualities about your partner and convinced you that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with! Depending on your personalities (and the mood of your ceremony), you could opt to inject a little endearing humor or some sentimental thoughts. Either way, close with your mutual marriage promises to each other—which are the core of the vows after all!
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